In her book In
Love and in Danger: A Teen's Guide to Breaking Free of Abusive Relationships,
Barrie Levy writes:
If you are emotionally or verbally abusive, you may believe that you are also
a victim. You may believe that others cause your problems, and cause your
violence. The result is that you don't recognize that you have a problem
that only you can change. Answer the questions below. If you
answer yes to two or more of these, then you are an abuser.
 | Are you extremely jealous and possessive?
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| Do you have an explosive temper?
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| Do you constantly ridicule, criticize or insult your girlfriend or
boyfriend?
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| Do you become violent when you drink and/or use drugs?
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| Have you broken their things or thrown things at them?
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| Have you hit, pushed, kicked or otherwise injured them when you were
angry?
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| Have you threatened to hurt or kill them or someone close to them?
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| Have you forced them to have sex, or intimidated them so they are afraid
to say no?
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| Have you threatened to kill yourself if they leave?
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| Do you make them account to you for every moment they are away from you?
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| Do you spy on them or call them constantly to check up on them?
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| Do you accuse them of seeing other guys or girls? |
